Ah, three words that define marriage. This will be a good topic. Love, Respect and Perspective, those three words unquestionably, are the essential backbone to marriage. If you don’t have those, you don’t have marriage.
Love, Respect and Perspective, those three words unquestionably, are the essential backbone to marriage.
These three things are the-the creme de la creme in relationships. If you don’t have these, you better get them and fast! If you don’t, well, that can just spell doom for your marriage.
That four letter word. The thing that people strive for in life. Since the day we’re born, we are loved. Then we want to be loved. Yet, love is that elusive thing that not one single person describes the same. We all have a different meaning for love. Yet, we all want it. People will say it is sex, feelings, butterflies in your stomach. Other’s will say it is a chemical reaction in your brain of Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, Vasopressin and Adrenaline.
Whatever causes it. We want it and we need it. When you feel like you don’t get it, then you start thinking if the grass might be greener somewhere else. Which is one of the reasons infidelity is so high. They try to fill the void somewhere else. It even can lead to people picking up addictions because they don’t feel like they get it.
This one thing is what men want the most. Yes, they want to feel loved and know they are loved. Ultimately, they want to know they are respected and feel respected. Oh, yes I know, respect is a two-way street. You think you got to give it to get it. That is one of the Stupidest comments ever invented. That falls in line with an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. The Respect is earned phrase will leave the world without respect. Oh, wait, we are already there. Go talk to your grandparents that were born in the 30s,40s, and 50,s. Back then they gave everybody respect. They didn’t wait for it to be given. Then the person in return was respectful back. Now in the situation that they weren’t, well they still got it. I’ll bet that everybody was pretty respectful to each other in those days.
Now we have grown up in the age of “Don’t give it unless you get it first” well no wonder kids and marriages are screwed up in this generation!
If beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Then, perspective is the view of the recipient. See it all comes down to how the person you are interacting with takes it. If they tell you that you are being rude. Well, to them you are. It doesn’t matter if you think you aren’t, to them you are and they will respond in such fashion they see fit at that time and moment. This goes both ways. But some people can’t even begin to comprehend that they could be speaking rudely. If you are told that you are being rude, even if you think otherwise, say you’re sorry and explain what you are trying to say in a different manner.
So if your spouse is telling you that you are being rude and you say nothing, argue back with them, or deflect blame. Well, guess what.
YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!
So you better fix it and fast. Acknowledge what they are saying. Stop taking it personally and start addressing yourself.